SAY GOODBYE! this guy is a lazy ass and completely takes advantage of you....
get out before you get any deeper...

Leave Him
he is just going to keep doing this
it seems that you are growing up and ready for the adult world and he is not.
do you really want a husbend that is like another kid?
It might take time and alot of work but you need to he obviousley dose not care enuff about you to leave his childish days and spend his adult days with you.
he needs to grow up and you can do way better

hun, thats a man for ya.
dont leave him because of his flaws. tell him that you want a better life for your daughters and if he doesnt step up and help that your guna leave and you wont come back this time.
just show him that your serious. but if your not happy with him, and you feel like theirs no hope for him to change, then leave him and see if you can better your life without him.
if things dont work out like that you can always get back with him and hopefully hell change.
i wish the best for you. good luck

I'll pray for you
and you should say goodbye but since you have kids thats gonna be hards.
either say goodbye or talk to him and tell him he is a big mess. and if he doesnt pull himself together you dont know if you want to spend the rest of you life with him!

Leave before you feel you cant anymore. And dont let your children be an excuse for not leaving. Just remember that you have a whole future ahead of your self and your children have a whole future ahead of themselves, if things get any worst you do not want your children around that. And God forbid something happens and than you would be left feeling guilty for leaving soon enough. Dont think about him think about yourself and your children because obviously he is only thinking about HIMSELF. Good luck and hope everything works out for the best.

Read your very accurate and thoughtful letter; now, read it again.
Do you really want to hitch your(and your children's) wagon to his star?
Don't allow him to rent any more space in your head and stay just long enough to be in a position to have a good life.
You're his maid and babysitter. He doesn't want you in his social life.
Is he cheating? Of course.

Seriously? Eight years, two kids, no commitment? The down side of breaking up with him is he might get you back?
Guys don't introduce their girlfriends to girls they want to sleep with. It leads to awkward questions like "what about your girlfriend?" Much easier to pretend you don't have a girlfriend or pretend she isn't close enough to matter (we never hang out, we're breaking up anyway, let's do this).

All said your situation is bad but would being a single mom with two little kids growing up with no dad around be better?

I would talk to him about you breaking up with him and tell him that he has a month to change and if he really loves you he would change for the better and if he doesn't then tell him ur going to take the kids and leave. Just ask him to grow up and become a man. And if he does pull you back in you have to be strong. Its going to hurt but you have to do it for your kids. Tell him that hes a father and cant set an example like that for your kids. Or why dont you jus switch places with him. Like ignoor the kids and become a lazy bum and see how he likes it. He will prolly get irrated especially if the kids are going all crazy like ignoor him when he is talking to you and dont completely ignore the kids. but that would be funny to see how he reacts. Jus tell him that pay back is a bitch :)

The unfortunate aspect of this situation, and I'm sure one that is pressing on your mind, is the fact that you have two children together. On one hand, you do not want to cause the trama of a separation for the children. On the other hand, and what you need to focus on, is the fact that their father is not providing for them. He is happy working at a pizza place making little money. He is happy to spend "his" money on frivolous things. He is not helpful. He is wearing YOU down. This is not good for you or your children.

Do you have a support system? Family or friends? You are going to need them because you ARE going to leave him. I speak from experience. I was in a relationship VERY much like this. Coincidentally, he worked at a pizza place, didn't want to better himself, didn't want to go to school, spent our money on useless junk, etc. I was with him on again off again for 5 years. And let me tell you this. You WILL get fed up and when you do, he will becomed defensive. Eventually, you will both be bitter toward one another and that is not a safe place for children. My ex that I spoke of before ended up becoming emotionally and physically violent and put me in the hospital, it got so bad. You do not want this.

Please please please, this is what you need to do. Call a friend or a family member and tell them you're doing it. More often than not, they will do EVERYTHING you need. Pack your bags and bags for your children and just LEAVE. You don't have to get everything now but you need to stay away for a week at least.

I understand what you mean about being afraid he'll pull you back. I went back to my ex at least 5 times after our 'final' breakup, when he'd moved out and we weren't talking. It was AWFUL. Each time we separated, it got worse and worse. So, get away until you are SURE about this decision and feel strong enough to possibly see him when you go back.

Don't say anything to him. He'll only tell you what you want to hear. Just tell the kids you're going to go visit 'so-and-so' and GO. Don't think twice. You'll be okay. It will all be for the better. I promise. Be strong and GO. Your life will be so much better. You're going to REALLY hurt for at least a week, but just remember why you're doing this. For yourself. And for your children. Don't let yourself be selfish and ignore their well-being. Just keep telling yourself that.

Good luck and god bless.